One of the most complicated times in one’s life may be getting over a long-term relationship. The transition from “forever” to “never” is a real slap in the face.
It’s like if you were to combine a nasty divorce, a house fire and the death of your best friend.
Sorry, didn’t mean to get morbid here, but you do tend to stop talking to at least one person in your life when a long relationship ends.
From personal experience, here are just a few tips that I would encourage you to try on when you feel up to it.
1. Pick up a new hobby
Take this opportunity of “freedom,” if you will, to try something you’ve always wanted to try. Maybe it’s learning how to knit, joining a book club or take a rock climbing class.
If you live in or near a metropolitan area, there’s a good chance others have created groups in the Meetup app. From happy hours to running groups, game nights to brunch, there’s an event for everyone!
This personally helped me a ton because I had moved away from my community during this transition and didn’t know many people or places to hang out at with people my age.
New experiences and meeting new people not only distract us from the ugly feelings, but they can help us grow and push our boundaries a bit. Who knows, you may find something you really enjoy and continue with it regularly!
2. Plan a trip & take it
There is no better time than right now to plan a trip that you’ve always wanted to take, and turn a dream into a reality.
Want to lay on the beach for a week while waiters bring you unlimited margaritas? Or, is backpacking across Europe more your pace? Maybe it’s just a road trip to a neighboring state.
Whatever it is, you get to plan all the details and make it your trip.
3. Adopt a furry friend
If you were left with the apartment, or maybe you went ahead and got your own place, why not head to the local animal shelter and pick out an adorable friend that will love you unconditionally?
I can’t speak to felines, but dogs have a sense for our emotions and they are THE BEST companion when you are feeling lonely or sad.
They also make a great motivator to get out of bed and go on a walk, hike or run.
4. Get your sweat on
This is something that took me a while to find again.
It was when my only two pairs of jeans no longer buttoned up that I decided to get back into the swing of working out again.
Fitness may not be your thing, but it’s not only good for the body, but it’s also great for us mentally to raise our heart rates a bit. Start with a walk around the neighborhood or a hike at the local park. If you’re more of a gym person, try on a few studios. They typically offer a free first class or really cheap first month.
Not only will you get some much deserved “you time,” but you’ll maybe run into old friends and make new friends that you can coordinate dates with outside of the studio, too.
5. Make new friends
Unless you were the one who stayed connected with your “couple friends,” you may have to get out and make new friends.
Sure, you’ll always have your friends that will never leave your side no matter what, but meeting new people also allows you to hear experiences that you can learn from, or gives you a new perspective on life.
It can be scary trying to make friends as an adult. But worry not, my friend! There are other people looking for new friendships, too. Maybe even in the exact same situation as yourself.
I’d recommend tapping into Bumble BFF, Meetup or local networking events.
Also, don’t be afraid to find a bar, go to the movie theater or enjoy a dinner out by yourself. Solo adventures can be just as fun!
Craving a lobster dinner and a nice glass of wine? You can have it for the price of a date with someone else, if not cheaper!
We’re human. None of us truly want to be alone. It just takes some courage to get out there and find yourself again. Who knows what you’ll discover.
Have any tips to share that weren’t covered above? Please, comment below!